So you’ve been asked to be a bridesmaid…
And of course, you excitedly said YES! After being excited for the bride and feeling so honored that you’ve been chosen to stand up at the alter, wearing a beautiful dress when the vows are exchanged, reality sets in. Being a bridesmaid is kind of a big deal. You’re kind of a big deal. You need to do this thing right. But how?! Well you are in luck, my friend, this blog is all for you! I am going to use my combined wedding photographer, bride and bridesmaid experiences to give you all the information you’ll ever need on how to be a good bridesmaid.
So let’s break this thing down. Bride’s- Maid. Your first and foremost job, I’ll say that again, JOB, as a bridesmaid is to wait on the bride. By agreeing to be a bridesmaid you’ve accepted a job of helping the bride. This will look different for every bride. For me, as a bride- I needed my bridesmaids to help me find a dress, as a bridesmaid- I painted vases and ordered flowers, as a wedding photographer- I love it when bridesmaids are tasked with veil & dress duty. There are many hats to be worn on the wedding day and in the months leading up to it. Let’s look at some of the jobs you’ll be given and how you can be the very best bridesmaid.
Before the Wedding…
- Understand what you have committed to. Talk to the bride to see what she expects of you to make sure that you can meet her expectations.
- Being a bridesmaid can be expensive. You might have to spend $300 on a dress you’ll wear once. There’s hair, makeup, shoes, accessories, bridal showers, bachelorette parties and gifts for the couple. All of these things can add up. Plan ahead of time for how you will cover these expenses so that you can be a part of the whole experience.
- Part friend/ part consultant. Be sure to carve out time in your schedule to help the bride make decisions about the wedding. You can buy her a planner, create a Pinterest board, schedule lunch dates or just call her on the phone. She will appreciate the effort and your help- even if it is just listening to her thoughts- means more than you know.
- Shopping. This part is fun! Go shopping for the bridal gown and accessories and for your bridesmaids dress.
- Show up. Not every bride wants or needs a bridal shower or bachelorette party but if she has one its your responsibility to show up and represent the bride squad.
The Day Of…
- Be in a happy mood. Weddings are emotional. The wedding day is when you need to be on your A game. The bride is likely to feel overwhelmed and nervous after all the planning and knowing that everyone will be looking at her all day. Do your part as a bridesmaid to help keep everyone in a calm, happy mood. You can play feel good music, tell some inside jokes and gush over how beautiful the bride is.
- Bring Pizza! Or Chick-fil-A! Or doughnuts! Just make sure that you (and the bride) eat something. Wedding day is busy busy. Eat something and stay hydrated.
- Smile for the camera. Everyone feels awkward in front of a camera. Listen to the photographer- we know how to make everyone look their very best and the bride wants images of with you in them. Plus you get the added bonus of free professional images- score!
- Bustle the dress. At the dress fittings (remember you are going to all of that stuff because you’re a good bridesmaid) get the seamstress to show you how to bustle.
- Dance the night away. The wedding party should be the life of the party. The first to hit the dance floor and the last to leave. You’ve spent months preparing for this day- enjoy it, you earned it!
As a bridesmaid you have an important part in the wedding. You’re special to the bride and she wants to share one of the best days of her life with you. Use these tips to be a good bridesmaid.